Did you know that childhood trauma will show up in your adult relationships if you don't heal it?

Here are some ways it can affect you and your relationships:

🔸 Difficulty trusting others

🔸 Fear of abandonment

🔸 Trouble with intimacy and vulnerability

🔸 Low self-esteem and self-worth

🔸 People-pleasing behavior

🔸 Avoidant or anxious attachment styles

🔸 Codependency or enmeshment

🔸 Inability to set healthy boundaries

If any of these sound familiar to you, know that you're not alone and that healing is possible. It takes courage and effort to face your past and work through your emotions, but it's worth it to create healthier relationships and a happier life. 💛

Have you ever felt like you keep repeating the same patterns in your romantic relationships? Or that you always seem to attract partners who are emotionally unavailable, abusive (physically, emotionally or mentally), checked out, controlling, possessive, angry, always need fixing, never committing etc? It’s possible that your childhood trauma may be playing a role.

Research has shown that if you don’t address your past traumas, they can show up in your romantic relationships in various ways. For example, you may have difficulty trusting others, struggle with intimacy and vulnerability, or have low self-esteem.

When it comes to romantic relationships, unresolved childhood traumas can be particularly detrimental. You may find yourself struggling to form healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Repeating patterns that you learned in childhood, such as avoiding conflict, being overly critical or controlling, or feeling like you don’t deserve love or affection. These patterns can create emotional distance between you and your partner, making it difficult to establish a deep connection.

Unaddressed trauma can lead to emotional dysregulation, making it challenging to manage your emotions when conflicts arise. This can cause you to react impulsively, say hurtful things, or shut down emotionally. This, in turn, can trigger negative responses from your partner, leading to further conflicts and distancing.

The good news is that it is possible to address and heal from childhood trauma.Trauma-focused coaching/therapy, can help you identify and process the emotions and beliefs that are holding you back in your relationships. You can learn new coping mechanisms and communication skills that can help you form healthy, secure attachments with your partner.

Communicate with your partner about unresolved trauma. Let them know you’re working on yourself and may need their support. This fosters empathy and helps your relationship thrive. Healing takes time, but it’s vital for a loving bond. Embrace the journey with patience and self-compassion; the rewards are worth it. 

Denise GPT will be released in February. This will be your online life coach who can assist you 24 hours of every day!!! You can ask her questions like: 

1. How does childhood trauma affect my relationships?
2. What are some common patterns or behaviors that may stem from childhood trauma?
3. How can I recognize if my past trauma is influencing my current relationships?
4. What are some coping mechanisms or strategies to address the impact of childhood trauma on relationships?
5. How can I communicate with my partner or loved ones about the effects of my childhood trauma on our relationship?
6. Are there specific triggers or situations that tend to bring up my childhood trauma in relationships?
7. Can you provide guidance on setting boundaries in relationships when dealing with the effects of childhood trauma?

You can even get more specific and tell her a little story about your life. This will help her to get to know you and be able to discuss pain points in your relationships. 

Be on the lookout for Denise GPT!!!  Your very own online life coach!