Mine and Robert's relationship is very rare. But it is extremely possible. It just takes 2 people who put in 100% effort. And yes although sometimes our relationship may need one person to take on more tasks and responsibilities (80/20, 60/40) we are always looking out for the other person's best interest. We both show up wholeheartedly in a thriving and meaningful manner. We are never just taking and not giving back in return. We are very aware and intentional about our love and how we treat one another.
This means sacrifice for things we said we never would do and if our partner is set in stone on these things,,,, we adjust if it's not a deal breaker or if doesn't go against our morals or values.
It means to surrender. Yes ladies this is a positive thing. I had no idea what surrendering really meant. And it doesn't mean give up everything in order to comply with this man, it means trust him enough to lead you, the way he is meant to lead, and know that he has your best interest at heart and will create a stable and flourishing relationship for the both of you.
Be each other's help mate. You are on this team together. It isn't you against him. It's both of you against the world. Help you partner where he or she falls short. Learn your partner and help your partner grow. Encourage your partner to thrive and appreciate them for all their flaws and insecurities. Let them know that no matter what, you have their back.
In their presence or not in their presence... respect your partner!! I can not stress this enough!!!!! Get rid of those contacts in your phone, delete people off your socials, give up those options (just incase). If you wouldn't want a certain behavior done to you... don't do it to your partner. Karma will come back and bite you in the ass.... I promise you it will. Stay true to yourself. If you can't do that for yourself, how in the heck do you expect your partner to???!!! Treat your partner with the same respect you would want him/her to treat you with. It really is that easy.
Women always say I have a unicorn. He is real ladies. But yes I agree. I found my very own live magical unicorn in the form of a human!! And he is magnificent!!!! I cherish every single waking hour with him.
Here are just a few ways I was able to prepare for him:
I got to know myself. I had a very clear understanding of what my values, interests and needs were. I dove deep into what I was looking for in a relationship. I knew from experience what I didn't want in a relationship and I stuck to my guns. I was not going to go back to being treated as an option, when I know my worth. I was very self aware and was able to communicate my needs and desires effectively. I was not afraid of expressing what I was looking for in a relationship. If he wasn’t on board … he wasn’t my person. Plain and simple.
I believed he existed and I had faith. I am not a religious person but I am very spiritual. I had to acquaint myself with a higher power. I sat down and had conversations with God along with my daily meditation rituals, this brought me closer to myself and who I was as a person. It helped me align with what I was missing and what mattered most to me. I had to really cut out a lot of people and the toxic behaviors I was doing were not adding to my growth or well being.
Respect for myself and healthy communication. I established open, honest and respectful communication from the beginning. This is crucial for building trust and understanding to a relationship. I got to know him on a friendship level and had meaningful conversations to foster emotional intimacy. Sex was not on the table. We shared our thoughts, dreams, vulnerable stories about our childhood and past relationships and created a strong foundation from there. Being able to nurture our friendship was extremely valuable. It wasn't something I had ever did in the past. So this was new to me but made me feel empowered. We joke about how he was "all the whipped". He chased me for months and still chases me 3 years later. I didn't play hard to get but I did let him know that I was wife material. And if he wanted this, he was going to have to work to get it. And ohhhhh he puts in the work. He caters to my every need. And I cater to his. We both respect each other immensely.
I let go of what I thought my perfect partner “looked like”. Yes I was the one that had a list of exterior and superficial goals for a man. 6ft, handsome, built, loyal, compassionate, great in bed etc. You name it, yes I was that person. *Sigh* And while you still need to be initially attracted to a person and have some sort of idea of what you want in a partnership. That comes in so many different ways. Allow yourself to try something different. (BTW my man is still dark, handsome and built But he falls short on height lol - he makes up for that in the confidence department).
I seeked a partner who was committed to personal growth just as I was. One who supports and encourages my journey as well as his own was extremely important to me. I wanted us to always strive to evolve in our relationship and have thriving goals. And I wanted someone who was equally invested in helping others obtain this goal as well because I knew in my heart of hearts my person would be my partner in crime for all things personal and business. We both have a story of our own personal healing journey and its how this beautiful program has come into fruition. We can't wait to share it with you all!
It’s possible to find the love you desire! It takes lots of work but it’s possible. Let’s connect if you’re ready!